canfindtensofgoodreasonswhichrenderthepossibilityofanywrong
doing as void.
DearSir!forthesakeofAllahstopbeingsuspicious.Consideryourself
afairjudgeandviewtheproblemwithlogic.Measurethedegreeofthe
possibilityofyourwife'sunfaithfulnessandfindoutwhetheritisdefin-
ite, just a suspicion, or even feasible?
Iamnotsayingthatyoushouldbeindifferentorcarelessbutthatyou
shouldactupontheamountofevidenceyoupossessandnotmore.Why
should youexaggerate the problem with baseless suspicion and make
lifedifficult for yourselfandyour family? How would you ltdif any-
bodyaccusedyouin asimilarmanner?Whydoyouthinkinan unfair
manner?Whyshouldyoudisgraceyourselfandyourwife?Whycanyou
nothavemercyuponyourwife?Have'..youeverthoughtthatshemight
eventuallydeviatefromthe rightpath throughyour mistrustandfalse
accusations?
ImamAli (AS)stated tohissonImam Hasan(AS):'Becarefulnotto
act possessively whenyou should not. Becausethis would incline the
rightpeopletowardscorruptionandthechastepeopletowardscommit-
ting sin'.
Ifyouaresuspiciousofyourwife,donotdiscussitwithjustanyone
whom you see, because they might approve of your suspicion out of
enmity,simplicityorcarelessness.Theymightapproveofyoursuspicion
out of enmity. simplicity or carelessness. They might even strengthen
your suspicion and cause you unhappiness in this world and the life
after.Youshouldnot,specifically informyourmotherorsisterbecause
theywouldnaturallybeinagreementwithyouandthusincreaseyour
suspicion. Youmust seekadvice fromwise andexperiencedfriendsor
relatives.
Thebestapproach,however,isforyoutotalktoyourwifeandaskher
foranexplanation.Butyoushouldnotseektoproveherguilt.Listento
whatshehastotellyouanddecidelikeafairjudgewhoisfreefromany
prejudice.