Principles of Marriage and Family Ethics

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Atleasttrytobelieveherandimagineyourbrother-in-lawispresent-
ingyou withevidence ofyour sister'sunfaithfulness. Whyshould you
act mercilessly and regard her as a proven criminal?


Bewiseandpatient,lestyoudivorceheronbaselessgrounds.Suppose
youendurethesufferingsofadivorce,buthowcertainareyouaboutthe
nextwife.You wouldstillbe suspicious.Whatistheirfaultifitis you
that is sufferingwith this illness? Be wise andtry to understandyour
own problem.


Be carefulnot to resort to commit suicide or murder your wife.Be-
causeyouwoulddestroyyourlifehereinthisworldandtheAlmighty
AllahwouldpunishyouinthelifeHereafter.YoumustknowthatSpill-
ingbloodwouldonedayberevealedandthenyouwouldeitherbeex-
ecutedorwouldspendyourlifeinprison.Ifyoudonotagreewiththis
point, then just take a look at the statistics of convicts.


Wivesofsuspiciousmenalsohaveagreatresponsibilitywithrespect
totheirfamilies. Thesewomenmustsacrifice andprovetheirabilityin
suchdifficultsituations.DearMadam!firstofallyourhusbandisinfec-
ted with a dangerous illness where he, unwillingly, takes the wrong
steps which would endanger your family.


Youmustexpressyourloveforhimasmuchaspossible.Hemustbe
certainthatheistheonlymaninyourlife.Bepatientwithhim,donot
shoutathim,donotrefusetotalk tohimanddonotbestubbornwith
him.


IfyoufeelthatheismonitoringyourlettersorcontrollingyourCom-
ings and goings, do not protest. Tell him everything, tell the truth.
Avoidliesordinarilyortheeventswhichhavehappened.Ifheeverfinds
outthat you havebeen lying about anything, hewould regardit asa
proof of your infidelity, the damage or which cannot easily he repaired.


Ifyoursuspicioushusbandeverasksyounottoassociatewithacer-
tainpersonorwantsyoutodoacertaintask,thenaccepthisword,oth-
erwisethecauseofhisdoubtinyouwouldstrengthen.Inbrief,avoidall
deeds which could make him suspicious of you.

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