after which he would need to be provided with a house, carpets, fur-
niture, andsoon He would even seek financial help from his parents
after his marriage.
Thirdly,ifparentsdonotdiscriminatebetween theirsonanddaugh-
ter,andiftheytreattheirson-in-lawkindly,theson-in-lawwouldoften
bemorehelpfultothemattimesofdifficultiesandisusuallymorefaith-
ful to themin comparison to their own son. Anyway, is ita woman's
fault if she gives birth to a girl?
Themanandwifearebothinvolvedintheactionofprocreationanda
manhasnorighttoblamehiswifeforthismatter.Otherwiseitisjustas
reasonableforawomantoblameherhusbandinthisregard.However,
neitheraretobeblamed,asitisonlythewillofAllahtodeterminethe
sex of a baby.
Therearesomeexpertswhobelievethatthesexofachildcanbede-
terminedfromthe factastohowthemotherisfedduringthefirsttwo
monthsofpregnancy.Soiftherearepeoplewhopreferaparticularsex
ofababy,theyshouldgetincontactwiththeexpertsandthuspreventa
situation of blaming their wives.
An intellectual man, not only should not upset at having a baby
daughter,butmust beveryhappytoo. Heshouldshow hishappiness,
shouldexpresshisaffectiontowardshiswifeandshouldevengivehera
present.
Hecouldcelebratethenewbirthandeventakelogicalstepsinconvin-
cinghiswifethatababydaughterisjustasgoodasababyboy,should
she be upset with having a daughter.
Awisefatherwouldnotdiscriminate betweenhissonanddaughter,
would not condemn any bodyfor having a daughterand thus would
fight the ignorant concepts of the 'Age of Ignorance'.
"Amanheardthenewsofhavinganewlybornbabydaughter,while
hewasinthepresenceoftheHolyProphet(SA)ofIslam.Hebecameup-
set. The Prophet (SA) stated: