Chapter 11

Do not look for Shortcomings

Nobodyisperfect.Somearetootallortooshort,ortoofatortooskinny,
haveabignoseorasmallone,talktoomuchoraretoosilent,arebad-
temperedortooeasy-going,haveaverydarkcomplexionoraveryfair
complexion,oreattoomuch,ortooless,andthelistcancontinue.Most
men and women have some of these shortcomings. It is the hope of
everymanandwomantofind aspousewho isperfectbutsuchhopes
areunrealistic.Itisunlikelytofindawomanwhoregardsherhusband
as perfect.

Thosewomenwho are insearchof faultsintheir husbandswillun-
doubtedlyfind them.They wouldfind atrivial shortcomingandexag-
gerateitbydealingonthemattertothepointthatitbecomesanunbear-
ableimpediment.Thisdefectthenreplacesallthemeritsofthehusband.
Theyalwayscomparetheirhusbandswithothermen.Theyhaveestab-
lished a so-calledideal manin their imaginations whosestandards do
notfitintheirhusbands.Therefore,theyarealwayscomplainingabout
theshortcomingsintheirmarriage.Thewomenregardthemselvesasun-
fortunates and failures which gradually turn them into spiteful women.

Whatdoessuchbehaviourinawomandotoherhusband?Hemaybe
averypatient personwho cantoleratetherudeness butmostlikely he
will become insulted and develop a grudge against her. This would
likelyleadtowardsmutualargumentsandelaboration’softheshortcom-
ingsin eachother.They willboth becomecontemptuous ofeach other
andtheirlifewillturninto aseriesofrowsandarguments.Thus,they
willeitherliveinmiserytogetherorgoforadivorce.Ineithercase,both
will lose,especially when thereis no guarantee that anothermarriage
may prove otherwise.