thelivesofthosewhomhetransports.Adoctorwho,frommorningto
night,visitstensofpatientscannotcopewiththegrumblingofhiswife.
Thenhowcouldhecontinuetopractisemedicine?Aworkerwhoworks
duringthenightshiftscannotenthusiasticallypursuehis3obifhiswife
isashrewishwoman.Howcanascientistbesuccessfulinhisfieldofre-
searchifhiswife isconstantlynagginghim?These arethe testswhich
distinguish the wise women from the ignorant ones.
DearMadam!Wecannotmaketheworldaccordingtoourwishes,but
wecanadaptourselvestotheexistingsituation.Yourhusbandneedsto
have a job to earn his family's living. His job has certain conditions
whichyoumustadaptto.Youmustprogrammeyourfamilylifeaccord-
ingtohisjob.Whydoyougrumbleandfindfaultwithhisjob?Welcome
himhomewithahappyfaceandbekindtohim.Bewiseandcopewith
his job.
Ifyourhusbandisadriverwhoismostlyontheroad,thenrealisethat
heistryingtobringmoneyhomeforyoursakeandthechildren's.There
isnothingwrongwithhisjob.Heisapartofsocietyandisservingitthe
bestwayhecan.Wouldithavebeenbetterifhewasalazypersonorif
hewas engagedin anirreligious job?So, thereisnothing wrongwith
him.The fault lieswith you, expectinghimto be athome everynight
and not being able or not wanting to adapt yourself to the present
conditions.
IsitnotWisetogetusedtotheexistingsituationandlivemorecom-
fortably? Wouldyou not rather welcome himwith a smiling face and
persuadehimto carryonin hisjobwith a warm"Good-bye" whenhe
leaveshomeforwork?Ifyouactkindly,hisinterestinhisfamilywould
increaseandhecouldworkharder.He wouldnot isolatehimselffrom
you;hewouldcomehomeasearlyaspossible;hewouldnothaveacci-
dents and he would remain healthy in his morals.
Ifyourhusbandisanight-shiftworker,heismissinghisnight'sgood
sleepinordertomeettheexpensesofhisfamily.Trytogetusedtoitand
do not express your dissatisfaction. If youget bored,then youcan do
some of the housework, sewing and readingat night. In the morning
preparethe breakfastwhenyour husbandcomes backfromwork, and
thenpreparehisbedinaquietplace.Keepthechildrenquietandteach
themnottodisturbtheirfatherwhenheisresting.You caneven sleep