cause'orperhapsshehadbeenthecause;orperhapsshehadbeenindif-
ferenttohisdesiresforfood,herlooksortheaffairsofthehouse.Such
mattersdrawmenawayfromhome.Theymaythenpursueoutsidede-
viant activities in order to forget their problems.
Thewifecanaskherhusbandabouthisproblemsandtrytohelpsolve
them.Ifawomancorrectedherselfandchangedthehouseaccordingto
hisdesires,thenshecouldbehopefulthatherhusbandcouldbedrawn
back to his family and that he would avoid corrupt places.
(b)Secondly,sheshouldshowhimasmuchkindnessaspossible.She
should advise him and remind him of the grim consequences of his
deeds.Sheshouldevencryandbeghimtogiveuphisbadcompanions.
She must say to him:
"Ilove youfromthe bottomofmy heart.lam proudofyou. Iprefer
you to all things and l am ready to devote myself to you. But I am
saddenedbyonething;whyshouldaman,likeyou,havethesekindsof
friends;or attendthatkindof aparty?Such deedsare not suitablefor
you. Please give them up.
The wife must continuethis attitude until sheconquers the heart of
herhusband.Itispossiblethatthehusbandisusedtounworthyhabits
andthathewouldnotbeinfluencedeasily,butthewifeshouldnotbe-
come disappointed. She should pursue her goalwith greater strength
and patience.
Womenhavegreatpowerandinfluence overmen.She isabletodo
whatevershewillsifsheputshermindtoit,Ifawomandecidestosave
herhusbandfromthefilthofcorruption,shecandoit.Thereisaneighty
percentchanceofsuccess,providedsheactswisely.Anyway,shemust
notuseviolenceoraharshattitude,unlesssheseesthatthereisnotany
resultfrom being kindandgentle tohim, Eventhenshemust quarrel,
leavehomeoruseanyotherway inaskindaway aspossibleandnot
revengefully.
Yes,lookingafterone'shusbandisthedutyofeverywife.Itisadiffi-
cultdutyandthatiswhytheProphet(SA)ofIslamstated:"TheJihadof
a woman is to take care of her husband well.'