Thebestattitudeisthatbothmanandwifegiveuparguingandtryto
be logical.Men haveagreaterresponsibilityin thismatter,andin fact
thekeytothesolutionisintheirhands.Mencan,throughpatienceand
forgiveness,save themselves from troubleand also help eliminate the
element of suspicion in their wives.
Now a few words to the men:
Firstly, dear sir! You should rememberthat your wife,even though
suspiciousofyou,loves you.Sheisinterestedin yourchildrenandthe
family home. She is afraid of separation. She would definitely suffer
fromyour deplorable lifesituation.Ifshe didnot loveyou, shewould
not have been jealous. So she does not like the present situation, but
whatcanshedoifsheisill?Somepatientshaverheumatismandsome
havecancer.Yourwifesuffersfromamentaldisorderandifyoudonot
believeit,thentakehertoapsychiatrist.Youshouldtreathersympath-
eticallyandcompassionately.Youshouldnotbeangrywithherorhave
arguments.Noonecouldquarrelwithanillperson.Donotreactharshly
toherimpolitenessorallegations.Donotend upfighting withher.Do
notgo toanycourts.Donot ignoreher.Do nottalk aboutdivorceand
separation.None of theseactscan cure her illness, in fact itmightbe-
come worse. Your unkindness would serve as a source of her suspicion.
You mustbe as kindtoher as possible.You mightresentyour wife
deeplybecauseofherattitude,butthereisnotanyotherway.Youmust
treat her in a manner so that she becomes certain of your innocence.
Secondly, you should try to create an understanding between
yourselves.Donothideanythingfromher.Letherreadyourletterseven
beforeyoudo.Leavethekeystoyourprivatedesk,drawersorsafewith-
inherreach.Letherlookintoyourbagsandpockets.Allowhertomon-
itoryou.Youshouldnotexpressdispleasurewithanyoftheabove-men-
tionedpoints, butregard themas normalproceduresin a healthy and
friendly family life.
After work, ifyou do not have any other business, return home as
soon as possible. If an urgent matterarises that you shouldattend to,
theninformyourwifeandtellherwhereyouaregoingandatwhattime
sheshouldexpectyoubackhome.Thentrytobeontime.lfyouarelate
incominghome,thenimmediatelytellyourwifethereason. Becareful
not to lie, otherwise she will become suspicious. Consult her in your