DearMadam!Thesubjectofyourhusband'sunfaithfulness,likeevery
othersubject,needsproof.Aslongashisguiltisnotprovedyoudonot
haveanyrighttoconvicthim. Neitherlawnorone's conscienceallows
oneto accusesomeone ontheaccount ofprobabilityofacrimehaving
taken place. Would you not be hurt if someone accused you of
somethingwithoutanyproof'Isitpossibletoconsideryourfoolishand
baseless theories as proof of an important crime such as adultery?
"Oyouwhobelieve!Avoidmostofsuspicion...forsurelysuspicionin
some cases is a sin... (4:12)."
ImamSadiq(AS)stated:'(Theweightof')accusingan,innocentperson
falsely is heavier than the high mountains'."
"TheProphet(SA)ofAllahstated:"Anyonewho makesfalse accusa-
tionsuponabeliever,Allah,ontheDayofResurrection,willplacehim
upon a heap of fire in order that he receives the punishment he
deserves'."
DearMadam!Donotbefoolishanddonotjumptoconclusions.When
youhavetime, sitdownandwritedownall theproofandgrounds re-
gardingyourhusband'sunfaithfulness.Theninfrontofeachpoint,write
downtheotheraspectstotheproblemandtheprobabilityoftheiroccur-
rence. Next,place yourself as a fair judgeand think deeply about the
writtenpoints.Iftheydonotconvinceyouthatheisguilty,thenyoucan
either forget the matter or make further investigations.
For instance, the presence of a strandof hairin your husband's car
may be easily explained by one of the following:
(a) It may belong to one your husband's relativessuch ashis sister,
mother, aunt, or their children.
(b) It may be one of your own.
(c)Hemighthavegivenaliftto hisfriendorrelativeaccompanying
his wife and the strand of hair might be hers.
(d) He might have given a lift to a helpless woman.
(e)Perhapsoneofhisenemieshasdroppedthestrandofhairinhiscar
deliberately in order to make you suspicious of him.
(f) One of his women colleagues might have been given a lift in his car.