Principles of Marriage and Family Ethics

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not indicative of his guilt. It is possible that he may really forget
somethingorhemaybeinapanic.Atthispoint,donotpursuethemat-
terfurtherandleaveitforamoreappropriateoccasion.Ifhesaystoyou
that hehas forgotten something,accept it. However, ifyou are stillin
doubt, investigate through other channels.


Third:
Do not voice your suspicion with anyone you see, since they may be
your foes. Enemies always endorseyour claimsandmight even adda
fewliesto itin orderto shatter yourlife. Theymay not befoes, buta
bunchoffoolish,simple,andinexperienced peoplewho reinforceyour
claimssympathetically.Theymaybeyourcloserelativesorclosefriends.
Consultationisonlyusefulwithwise,clever,andgenuinesympathisers.
Ifyouneedtoconsultsomeone,thenfindtherightpeopleanddiscussit
with them.


Fourth:
If the proof of your husbands guilt is not affirm proof towards your
husband'sguilt, ifyour friendsandrelativesthinkthatthe evidenceis
notenough,ifyourhusbandregardshimselfasnotguilty,andfinallyif
youarestillsuspiciousofhim,thenyoucanbesurethatyouareill.You
aresufferingfromamentaldisorderinwhichthe elementof suspicion
hasgrownbeyondyourcontrol.Itisvitalforyoutoturntoapsychiatrist
who could treat you accordingly.


Fifth:
Therefore,it isnot wise foryou to argue with your husband or make
complaintsto thecourt. Donot talkabout divorceanddonot degrade
him.Suchanattitudewillonlyleadtomoreangerandrowswhichmay
resultindivorce.Becarefulnottoactfoolishly,ordecidetocommitsui-
cide.Bykillingyourselfnotonlywouldyoulosethislife,butyouwould
also be tormented in the next world.


Isitnotsadtoloseyourlifeforthesakeofabaselessthought?Isitnot
better to solve your problems through patience and wisdom?


Sixth:
Ifyouare stillsuspicious ofyourhusbandor youreachthe conclusion
thatheiscertainlyhavinganaffair,thenagainyouaretobeblamed,be-
causeyouhavenottriedenoughtowinhisheart.Youhaveplacedagap

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