Principles of Marriage and Family Ethics

(Chris Devlin) #1

Theignorantmother,insteadofencouragingherdaughtertodevoteher-
selftoherhusband,makesheropposeherhusband.Themothermaytell
her daughter:


"Youhaveruinedyourlife.Whatanawfulhusband!Whatgoodmen
wereprepared to marry you! Whata good lifeyour cousin has!How
lucky yousisteris! Whathavethey gotthat youhaven't?Why should
you live like this? My poor daughter!"


Themother,whosewordsareregardedassympathetic,causesfamily
rows and arguments between the daughter and her husband. The
daughterisplacedinasituationtopickuprowswithherhusband.The
parents wouldalso takesides with herand finallyin orderto winthe
fight, they show willingness towards their daughter getting a divorce.


"A thirty-yearold woman attacked her fifty-year old motherfor she
hadcausedherdivorce.Thiswomansaid:'Mymothertalkedbehindmy
husbandsomuchthatitcausedmanyargumentsbetweenmeandhim,
Finally,Igotdivorcedbutsoonregrettedit.Butitwastoolate,because
six hours after our divorce, my former husband was engaged to my
cousin. I was so frustrated that I decided to beat up my mother'."


"Athirty-nineyearoldmanranawayfromhiswifeandmother-in-law
andlefta lettersaying: 'Becauseof mywife's attitude andbecauseshe
wasnotpreparedtogotoAbadanwithme,Idecidedtoleavethisworld.
Mywifeandhermotherareresponsibleformydeath'.Thusaman,who
was fed up with his mother-in-law's interference, committed suicide'."


"Aman,whowasfedupwithhismother-in-law'sinterference,threw
her out of a taxi'."


Undoubtedly,daughterswhoobeymothersofthiskindandsubmitto
theirwills,would inflictanirreversibleblowonthemselves.Therefore,
anywomanwho cares forher family,should notbe influencedbyher
mother's will and should not regard them as one hundred percent
correct.


Awiseandcleverwomanwouldalwaysexaminethesuggestionsand
sayingsof hermotherbeforeimplementing theminher familylife.She
shouldimplementthemiftheydidnotcontradictorendangerherfamily

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