bonds.Inthiscase,thedaughtershouldsubmittothewillofhermother.
Otherwiseifthe daughterreaches theconclusionthather motherisig-
norantandhersuggestionsleadtorowsandargumentsthenshecanre-
ject her.
Anyway, there are two choices for the daughter:(a)Togoalongwiththedesiresofhermotherinwhilecase,familyar-
guments would follow; or
(b) To ignore her mother, and comply with he husband's desires.
Obviously,onewouldnotchoosetheformerbecauseonedid,thenshe
wouldeitherhavetoliveinamiserywithhe-husbandordivorcehim.If
shecontinuestolivewithhe-husband,thenshe,alongwithherhusband
andthechildrenwouldsuffer.Inthecaseofdivorceshewouldprobably
havetogotolivewithherparents.Inthiscase,shecouldnotbeaccepted
asthememberofafamilyandcouldbetriedtogetridof.Shewouldbe
degradedandhumiliatedbeforealltheothermembersofthefamily.Itis
alsonot easytolivealone.Iwillalsonot beeasy tomarryagain.How
can onebe surethat thenextround willbe anybetterWhatabout the
children'Whataboutthechildrenofthenextman?Shemightendupso
frustratedthatshemightkillherselfShemaybecomeSodifficulttolive
with the next man she marries may run away or even kill himself.
Once a woman ponders over the consequences of actions upon the
selfishandfoolishdesiresofhermotherorothersthensheshouldfirmly
decidetoignoreallthetalkasnotCendangerherrelationshipwithher
husband. She could tell her mother:
''NowthatIam married,itisbetterformetotrytoprotectmymar-
riage,andkeepmy husbandsatisfied.Iwould rathertreat himkindly,
becauseheismypartner.Hemakesmehappyandisabletohelpme.He
sharesalltheupsanddownsoflifewithme.Heismychoiceandifwe
haveanydifficulties,wewill trytosolve themourselves.Wecan plan
ourlives.Yourinterferencemaymakeabadsituationworse.Ifyouwant
us to have a good relationship with you, thendo not interfere in our
lives,donottalkbehindmyhusband,otherwiseIwillhavetocutoffmy
relationship with you."