Chapter 25

Be a Mother to Him

Atthetimeofpreoccupationandillness,oneneedslobenursedbyoth-
ers. A nurse can assist the recovery of an ill person tremendously
through kindness and loving care. Men are small children who have
grownup.Theystillneedmotherlycare.Whenamangetsmarriedtoa
woman, he expects her to be a mother to himat times of illness and
difficulty.

DearMadam!ifyourhusbandbecomesill,takecareofhimmorethan
usual,Expressyoursympathyandpretendthatyouareextremelyupset
with thissickness.Consolehim, prepareall hisrequirementsandkeep
thechildren quietinordertokeephimrelaxed.If heneedsadoctoror
medicine.thenactaccordingly.Cookthefoodwhichhelikes,andwhich
isgoodforhim.Askabouthishealthfrequently.Trytostaybyhisbed-
side,asmuchaspossible.Ifheisinsomuchpainthathecannotsleep,
stayup withhim, asmuch aspossible.Once youwakeup, go tohim.
Askhowishe.Ifhehadnotsleptthatnight,thenexpressyoursorrow.
Keephisroomsilentinthedaytime.Yourcareforhimwouldhelphim
recover faster. He would appreciate your efforts and would love you
more. Besides he would do the same for you if you ever became ill.

"TheProphet(SA)ofAllahstated:"TheJihadofawomanistocarefor
her husband well'."