hadbeenpatientandhadnotreacted?Whichone wouldyouprefer?A
fewmomentsofsilenceorallthegraveconsequencesofgettingbackat
yourhusband?Donotimagineforasecondthatthepositionoftheman
isbeingdefendedhereandthatheisnotguilty;notitall.Ofcourseheis
guilty. He should not vent his anger out on his family. In the next
chapter.thispointwillhediscussedinmoredetailbutherewearesay-
ingthata womanshouldbe wise andnot reacttowardsher husband's
anger.beitrightornot.Inthissituation,themanmaynotbeabletocon-
trolhimself,soitisimportantthatthewife,inordertosaveherfamily.
remains silent.
Womenusuallythinkthatremainingsilent,whencomingfacetoface
with their husband's anger, would belittlethem, antithat they would
lose their respect. However, the situation is quite the reverse. A man
who sees noreactionwheninsulting his wife.wouldcertainly become
remorseful.Hewould regardhiswifeasalovingwoman,whodespite
her ability to retaliate, preferred to forgive him. Hislove for his wife
wouldincreasemanifold.Hewould apologiseandthushiswifewould
earn more respect.
"TheProphet(AS)ofAllahstated:'Anywomanwhotoleratesherhus-
bandsbadtemper,willberewardedbyAllahinthe sameway thatHe
rewarded Asiyah*. daughter of Muzihim'."
''The Prophet (SA) of Allah stated; 'The best of your women is one
who,uponseeingherhusband'sanger.tellshim:'Isubmittoyourwill.
Sleep will not pass over my eyes until you become content with me.
''TheProphet (SA)of Allahstated: 'Forgivenessandtolerancewould
increaseliehonourandrespectoftheirowners.BeforgivingsothatAl-
lah will cherish you.'"'