whether their heads are nodding or their hands are gesturing. Then observe
yourself. Notice how, even if you seem to be perfectly still, you’re moving in
time with the speaker’s rhythm. Your eyeblinks or head nods synchronise
with the words you’re listening to. These subtle body movements, echoing
those of the speaker, show that you’re paying attention.When you’re speaking and you want to prevent someone from interrupting
you, keep your hand slightly raised as you end your sentences. Then, when
you’re willing to let someone else speak you have several options of handing
over the air space. When you’ve finished your sentence you can pause, look
steadily at the other person, or conclude a hand movement that was accom-
panying your speech. By using these signals you’re demonstrating the attrac-
tive quality of sharing conversation, rather than keeping it all for yourself.Balancing Your Non-verbal Aspects of Speech ........................................
Attractive people know how to adjust their voices to suit the environment.
They control volume, pitch, and tone to the requirements of the situation.
They choose language that is appropriate for the circumstances and speak
clearly, confidently, and with commitment. In addition, the most attractive
people give their full attention as others express themselves.Because attractive people also like to share their opinions and tend to talk
more, being able to balance listening and speaking is vital.Behaving with confidence, moving with purpose, and demonstrating that you
comfortably abide by the rules of whatever environment you find yourself in,
are sure signs that you’re an attractive person whose company others seek.276 Part V: The Part of Tens