To keep yourself valued and attractive, keep yourself rare. What‘s most
―precious‖ to us is what we both value and think is rare... and therefore think
that it might not always be available.
And, interestingly enough, we humans don‘t seem to become more
attracted to what we desired once we actually get it.
In fact, we become less attracted.
Before we get something we want, it is going to make us better than we
are now so we‘re attracted to it. After we have it, it becomes a part of us and
no longer better than us. We get used to it and don‘t value it as much—unless
something goes wrong.
Getting KILLS wanting.
In fact, we are MORE attracted to the wants that come closer and closer,
so close we can almost smell them... but somehow stay just out of our reach.
This concept takes form in a lot of practical ways.
If you want to create attraction inside of a woman, you have to get used to
the idea of never being tamed, caught, ―gotten‖, or owned. This entire concept
requires that you do things exactly opposite of what your emotions may tell
you. You may be having a great conversation on the telephone and every fiber
of your being wants to keep talking, but to increase the attraction you need to
hang up and leave her on a high note, wanting more.
This can be tough, but it‘s necessary.
Becoming an Addiction
I‘m fascinated by the concept of ―addiction‖. I‘m always interested in topics
like this that are thought of as ―bad‖ things, but that also happen so often that
you have to wonder if they‘re pre-programmed into us humans.
Humans easily become addicted to things, and those things that cause the
most emotions tend to create stronger addictions. Again, this all has a history
in evolution.
Addiction was originally positive because it made us repeat good things,
especially when they weren‘t always available.
The most powerful reinforcement of behavioral addiction is intermittent
reward, e.g. gambling. If you only get the reward sometimes, you think about
it ALL the time.