This makes evolutionary sense because it‘s more important to repeatedly
pursue something that‘s not certain to always be there than something that
can be had whenever it‘s wanted.
We‘re now in an environment that‘s very different from 100,000 years ago
when things like yummy berries were limited. In a prepackaged world where
we can isolate, synthesize, and refine the most pleasurable things, addiction
can cause a lot of damage... as we all can see.
Still, understanding that addiction once served to keep us pursuing
uncertain valuable rewards shows us a way to intensify women‘s attraction to
us: Don‘t constantly do overly-nice things!
If you want a woman to be ―addicted‖ to you, then you need to mix it up.
Don‘t buy her things, write her notes, and give her flowers every single
time you see her when you first meet her.
Wait.
Do it when it‘s least expected and then wait until she doesn‘t expect it
again.
This is the way to not only make her think about you more, but also the
way to make her want and appreciate the nice things you do for her... rather
than expecting them and thinking of them as you trying to manipulate her.
The Obsession Formula
In a part of the brain called ̳Broca‘s Region‘, there‘s a mechanism that
basically says ―once something has become predictable it should be pushed
into our mental background‖ – since it doesn't require our attention anymore.
When you wear a sweater, your body might notice it at first, but if your
brain didn't quickly start ignoring it you wouldn‘t be able to concentrate on
anything else... and you would eventually suffer stimulus overload. The same
thing happens for background noise at a cocktail party, or all of the
―unimportant‖ things you can see at any given time.
What this implies is that to keep someone interested in you, and even to
make them obsessed with you, you must stay unpredictable.
Wusses are boring because they‘re always nice.
There‘s no mystery, no fun, nothing interesting.
As a man, you must be strong and reliable... and you must have integrity.
But you also must balance this set of characteristics with unpredictable,