Demonstrate complete control over yourself... you can take it or leave it.
It‘s easy to use this in situations when nothing could really happen anyway,
such as on dates in public or at dinner.
Be OK with sex and project the balance of thinking that sex is perfectly
okay and yet not needing to have it. Amplify attraction during the date, but
keep an uncertain energy alive by never showing desire too seriously.
You maintain your composure by making her want what‘s next more than
you do. A powerful male who doesn‘t give out physical affection right away
and takes it back when he does, is a man women want to have because
they‘re not sure they can have it.
For the moment, switch the final result with just getting to the next step.
Make sure each step along the way feeds her desire and leaves her wanting
something more. If she‘s asking, even begging for you to go further, that‘s a
good sign. Each step will then lead to the next and maximize the possibility of
getting to the next one.
The Attitude Has Mystery, Tension
Again, give her the gift of being able to miss you.
Let her have the experience of missing, wondering, and thinking about
you, perhaps even feeling uncertainty. ―I just caught myself thinking about
him... I wonder what he‘s doing... Maybe I should call him.‖
The opposite is that predictable, boring feeling of her knowing exactly
what‘s going on and that she can have you if she wants... which leads to her
not wanting you.
Think about when you‘ve met a girl you really liked. Remember sitting at
home and wondering what she was doing, wondering if she was with someone
else... and not being able to think about other things?
We are attracted to those we can‘t quite understand or control, and those
that somehow challenge our reach. We‘re actually naturally programmed to go
through these sequences for genetic and social reasons. A lot of guys let
uncertainty about where they stand or other general insecurities take over and
undermine the relationship by trying to force it or clinging needily.
Here‘s a good rule of thumb: Don‘t even THINK about a relationship until
date 10. This frame makes things much easier. Your position of, ―I always wait
at least 10 dates to see if this is something that I might consider taking to a
deeper level‖ is extremely powerful.
This attitude is an important example of actively selecting the frame in
which both of you operate. It puts your control upfront and makes you a
challenge. I say all this at the beginning, so a woman knows exactly what kind