As far as what you're saying when you walk up, of course you should talk
about something that‘s interesting to her...
Ask about a current topic like the average weight of women, silly fashion
trends, celebrity scandals, gender issues or differences, etc. Another great one
is to ask where a good place to eat or shop is, and how you can't find places
you like. Women love to make recommendations on things like this.
The topic doesn‘t need to matter for very long at all. In fact, it‘s a good
sign when it doesn‘t... We‘ll fully examine Cocky Comedy in detail in the next
chapter, but as soon as you bust into Cocky Comedy, her attention will be fully
focused on reacting to your wisecracks either defending herself and what she‘s
said or playing along with you.
Humor Technique: Fake Drama
You have to be able to produce ―fake mad‖ and ―fake surprised‖ so it
looks convincingly dramatic, but also so there are still clues that it‘s not
serious. Learn to shift your mood along the entire range from real to fake.
You could, for example, flirt with a waitress by saying, ―What, you‘re out
of the special?!‖ and dropping your fork in shock and anger—all while
maintaining a sly smile that suggests you‘re just joking and making a big deal
about something that‘s not actually important to you.
Sometimes a woman will react harshly to fake drama, just as they may do
with ball-busting. Giving an amused chuckle followed by, ―It‘s a joke‖ in a
somewhat condescending tone should diffuse the situation while avoiding your
emotional state to be affected by her.
Responding Correctly to Real Drama From a Woman
You can comply with her complaints sometimes, but just never give a
concession without first getting a bigger one in return! This idea I learned
through studying business negotiation tactics, but it applies perfectly to the
dating world too though...
If she asks you a serious, tough question—the kind that tests for some
personality trait or compatibility issue—don‘t give her the answer you know
would please her.
Give her the wrong answer or a bad answer that she might use to
disqualify you, but incorporate a slapstick remark so that she still can‘t tell if
you‘re serious or not. This way she can‘t make any definite judgments about
you and most importantly, can‘t hold some negative difference against you.
―What do you do for a living?‖