Some guys even have a rule: "If she won't return my phone call, then I
don't want to talk to her again."
I think that this is noble, but probably a little bit extreme in this day and
age. If you're interested in seeing a woman again, then a better idea is to
NEVER LET THE LINE GO SLACK. If she starts to drift away, don't just stand
around and let it happen. Do something!
In your case, this girl might have just gotten off of work an hour or two
late and didn't want to call you too late... or maybe she got off late and she
was tired... or whatever. In her mind she's probably thinking, "I wonder why
he hasn't called me... maybe he doesn't like me".
She probably thinks that she was being sweet and considerate by not
calling you. If you take the principle of "Never let the line go slack" and apply
it here, you'd probably want to give her a call a day or two later to ask her to
do something again.
Use the fact that she didn't call you back as a theme to tease her. Bust on
her and tell her that she now owes you big time because she flaked out. Get
her to beg for forgiveness, then say "I'll think about it... and while I'm
thinking, come over here and give me a two hour full body massage".
The moral here is to stop expecting women to call you, and start DOING
THE RIGHT THINGS. If you feel like the line is going slack, then pick up the
phone and get things moving again!
Should I Take Her Out To Dinner?
I went through a phase years ago where I NEVER took women out on
dates. I was single, and I met a whole bunch of different women, and NOT
ONCE did I take them to dinner, buy them meals, or any of the traditional
stuff. I proved to myself that it was not necessary to do this stuff in order to
have a woman feel attracted to you (as a matter of fact, I've learned that this
stuff can hurt in certain contexts).
With that said, I have a wonderful girl in my life right now who I take out all
the time... and it's great. Do what works for you. I personally think that
"dating" usually gives off the wrong kinds of vibes and creates a bad situation.
Dating often makes a woman go into "hard to get" mode.
A few things to think about:
- People in general, MALE OR FEMALE intuitively know when they are
being "pursued". As soon as we know that we have something that
someone else wants, the price starts to go up. Economics 101.