- When the price starts going up (translation: she realizes that you
really like her and she starts playing hard to get, making you "prove"
yourself, etc.) you start to LOSE CONTROL RAPIDLY. - When you lose control, you have a couple of basic ways you can
respond: A) Pursue her harder, giving her even MORE control OR B)
Giving up. (Neither of these options sound very good to me.) - An alternative is to NEVER START GIVING UP CONTROL IN THE FIRST
PLACE. - One way to do that is to stay away from things that put a woman into
the "courting" mode of thinking and behavior. - Asking a woman to dinner and then buying that is probably the
absolute most certain way to put a woman in the state of mind that
she is being "pursued" (with the possible exception of stalking her,
which I strongly discourage).
By the way, I'm not opposed to the idea of buying dinner for a woman.
I'm opposed to the mindset that you put her into when you buy it. Make
sense? Before I tell you what to do instead, let me share what I'm thinking
when I first meet an attractive woman (I like unusually attractive women
personally, so this might reflect a bit of a bias): "She seems nice, but in my
experience you never know what a person is like until you get to know them
better. I'm willing to take the time to have a cup of tea with her to find out
more."
Get it? I'M GOING TO GIVE HER THE OPPORTUNITY TO PROVE TO ME THAT
SHE'S MORE THAN JUST A PRETTY FACE. I never think EVEN FOR A SECOND
that I need to buy her dinner so she'll sit and talk to me. No way.
Incidentally, or not so incidentally, having an attitude that you need
something other than yourself in order for a woman to like you is
UNATTRACTIVE to women. They can smell this kind of attitude and lack of
self-worth. Bad, bad, bad. OK, so you get that I'm not real big on the idea of
starting off paying for dinners and gifts.
Her To Feel Attracted To Me? I Have This Girl That's Been A Friend For 47 Years... How Do I Get
Get Her To Feel Attracted To Me?
This is by far the most common question I get from men!
Here‘s the deal. Start making fun of her more, tease her about things, and
let her know the details about the women that you're dating. Call her less
often, and MOST IMPORTANTLY... if you're planning on getting together with a
friend, be ready to risk the relationship forever, as involvement often leads to