- There are a lot of guys who are average looking, average height,
average income, etc. who have ABOVE average success with women. - The "nicest" guys aren't usually the ones to whom women are
attracted. - There are a lot of men who are truly "bad boys" who get FAR more
than their share of women. - We humans, for the most part, are not in control of our "attraction
mechanisms" (or other emotions, for that matter)... in other words,
when we are attracted to someone else, it takes control of us and
there's almost NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT.
My Concept Of Attraction
“Attraction isn’t a choice; it’s an evolutionary mechanism that takes
over our mind and body long enough to make sure we mate with
someone with the best possible genes.”
Now, it‘s not important to the argument what your personal beliefs are
about evolution. I think most people would agree that evolution happened on
some level and is responsible to some extent for our similarities and
differences to other animals. Whether you believe that God started evolution
or it happened on its own is irrelevant to the mechanisms of attraction (In
future chapters I‘m going to explain this theory in more detail.)
My point is that women, for the most part, can’t help what they are and
aren’t attracted to...
THEY CAN‘T HELP IT!
Attraction works differently for men and women. For men it‘s all about
looks first, personality second; for women, it‘s more about personality, then
looks. Even though they happen for different reasons, I think that the GUT
LEVEL EMOTIONAL FEELING of attraction is probably similar for both men and
women.
Attractive women are approached all the time, so they know the game and
disqualify men very quickly. If you don‘t know what it takes to get past this
instant judgment, you have little to no chance.
Most men follow their emotional pulls and evolutionary/social conditioning
when it comes to women. They do the wrong things for the wrong reasons at
the wrong times. They‘ve never taken the time to understand how attraction
works nor do they admit they need help, so they walk around blind for the
most part.