You Meet Her Persona First
If you‘re still in the ideal world where being nice has meaning and
continuing to think, ―This stuff just couldn‘t fit with the REAL me... I don‘t want
to be manipulative,‖ then consider this: WOMEN DON‘T LIVE IN THE IDEAL
WORLD AND THEIR ACTIONS AREN‘T BASED ON IT EITHER. Women expect
that guys, especially nice ones, are being manipulative rather than acting like
their real selves, so women use manipulation in place of their real selves right
back at us.
You don‘t experience the REAL her when you first meet! Her social mask
handles anyone she deals with only on a surface level. Her persona is the first
test of a man‘s worthiness.
There‘s nothing manipulative about being good at getting past a persona to
the real person (as long as you don‘t deceive, hurt, take advantage, etc.).
Women prefer to be ̳real,‘ but guys who do anything to get what they want
will pretend they‘re being real when they‘re not, so women don‘t trust the
mere appearance of sincerity.
Improving your understanding and approach to attraction requires all three
of these beliefs: you can be highly attractive to women, things don’t work the
way you think they should, and changing your fake ―nice‖ behavior is not
being manipulative.
The many new ideas about attraction we‘ll look at will help turn these core
ideas from mere facts you understand into powerful beliefs you feel, and then
everything will come more naturally. Adopt these empowering beliefs about
yourself as firmly as you can as we start exposing the limiting beliefs you need
to get rid of.
We Think Women Are Attracted the Same Way We Are
Attraction is a simple phenomenon for men; looks are clearly the most
important factor to them when it comes to ―attractiveness‖. Though different
guys have various preferences and political correctness may make us say
otherwise in public, the thing that first attracts us to a woman is her physical
appearance. Because this response happens so strongly with us, we assume
that it happens the same way for women... a common error in thinking in that
many people make in many areas of life.
In fact it‘s the opposite; women are much more turned on by a strong
personality than strong looks. Playgirl? Read more by gay men than by
women. Which case is more likely, a hot girl with an ugly guy, or an attractive
guy with an unattractive girl?
Despite how obvious it is that looks aren‘t as important to women, we tend
to judge ourselves by our own criteria. We still shoot ourselves down because