Even the most skilled, most buff, most wealthy guys will go down in flames
if a woman‘s sick of being approached that night, is happily married,
experiencing ―that time of month,‖ etc. If you can learn to pity her for the
awesome time she‘s passing up by rejecting you, rather than letting her
rejection bring your emotions down, you‘ll be well on your way to consistent
success.
Competing With Other Guys
Attracting a woman is about you and her. Whether you are attractive to
her is determined solely by what goes on between the two of you, and yet
many guys compare themselves to other guys and fail to act because they feel
inferior to the others to whom they‘re comparing themselves.
There‘s no way you can fairly evaluate yourself against other guys; you‘ve
spent time examining yourself close-up in the bathroom mirror, scrutinizing
every blemish and imperfection, whereas you only see them from a distance.
You are privy to all your internal fears and insecurities, whereas you only know
about the thoughts and feelings other guys choose to verbalize, which is
usually their bravado (given the macho filter) rather than their fears and
insecurities.
There‘s no race or competition between you; you should be dating women
for what you are going to get out of it and not for others. The more you fail to
make attempts because you think she‘d prefer someone else to you, the less
you‘ll learn, and the less successful you will become.
Infinite Justice
I have a concept that I like to call ―The Infinite Justice Mechanism‖.
We humans just don‘t like seeing others do better than us. When they do,
we try to find something negative about them or what they‘ve done. This
brings them back down, making us feel we‘re on their level—but only in our
minds.
We want JUSTICE! We want our fair share.
The truth is absolutely nothing about us has actually changed when we
don‘t get justice or fairness. When we let it bother us, all it does is waste our
energy thinking about them negatively for no positive effect on us.
In fact, spending attention on other guys distracts us from our concerns. If
you go to a bar and there‘s a guy talking to all the hot women, the other guys
will get so upset they‘ll focus on him instead of talking to the women
themselves.