If it were easy to figure out what attracted a woman, any guy could mate
with her. The more difficult a woman is to decipher, the more control she
retains over her selection of a mate and the better the genes are of the men
with whom she mates.
We have evolved our mating strategy over millions of years, so it makes
sense that attraction is complex... and not just straight-forward.
Attraction, at Last
Now we‘ve finally got all the pieces we need to explain ATTRACTION and
why women feel it for some men, but not others.
We‘ve explored how her deeper investment in a given child makes a
woman value a ―provider‖ highly. But we also know that she values a man‘s
genes highly too.
If a man has ―great genes‖, a woman might be willing to mate with him
even though he‘s not going to stick around to help raise the child.
If a man has money (or ―means‖), a woman might be willing to mate with
him because he can provide best for her (and her future offspring).
As you can see all, men try to maximize their reproductive potential and
investment by leveraging their ―best assets‖.
Here‘s the bottom line:
If you LEAD with PROVIDER behavior – in other words, if you start out
trying to show a woman that you can provide for her by giving her things,
buying her dinners, and spending money – you are in one way saying, ―Hey, I
don‘t have the best genes and you probably wouldn‘t like me for who I am... so
I‘m going to try to buy your approval and affection.‖
This is WUSSY behavior, plain and simple.
Wussy behavior says, ―I have bad genes‖ at one level.
There‘s nothing wrong with being nice and being generous, but if you‘re
communicating that you‘re a WUSSY, it will hurt you.
On the other hand, when you don‘t lead with Wussy behavior... when you
lead instead with challenging, cocky and funny, interesting behavior, you‘re
communicating that you don‘t need her or anything else... that you‘re
incredibly valuable ―as-is‖.
This kind of behavior says that you know you have other options, you know
your own value, and that your genes are ―good‖ all by themselves.