To establish dominance, you have to learn to hold eye contact for longer
than her. If you see a woman that you find attractive, and she looks back at
you, DON'T LOOK AWAY. Most guys become self-conscious and look away as
soon as a woman notices them looking. This is a HUGE mistake.
If you want to communicate all the right things, you need to show
IMMEDIATELY that you're not afraid and that you're not at all self-conscious
about the fact that you are checking her out.
A good exercise is to walk through a mall for a few hours and look
DIRECTLY at every woman you see. Walk into every store, and look directly
into the eyes of every single woman you encounter... and DON'T LOOK AWAY
UNTIL AFTER SHE DOES.
To manage attention and interest whenever I would first meet a new
woman, I would make sure that my eye contact communicated, "I'm
interested in talking to you, but I'm not OVERPOWERED by your presence."
Here's how:
- Look directly at them at the beginning of the conversation and only
glance away a few times (so you don't look like a psycho...). This
shows that you‘re not AFRAID of them and that they have your
attention for the moment. - If the conversation progresses, break the eye contact by looking away,
talking to other people, allowing yourself to be distracted, etc. and
then coming back to look directly at them. This shows that you are not
needy (again, not looking at them like a psycho). - When you get together with a girl for the first time for tea or
whatever, don‘t look at them very much, but instead act like more of a
―best friend.‖ Joke around and have fun, but don‘t act too serious. By
doing this, it creates a question in her mind: ―Does he like me?‖
Use enough eye contact so that it's clear to her that you're not AFRAID of
her, but not so much that you intrude on her space. As the conversation
progresses, use less and turn up the humor to create tension.
Eye contact can say a lot of different things, and it says them strongly, so
make sure you‘re saying the right things with it.
Communicating with Tone of Voice
Most people speak with weak, squeaky voices that convey the message,
―I'm not confident... I have no self-esteem.‖
This turns women off... BIG TIME.