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The Principles of Emotional Intelligence

• In every situation, you transfer an emotional state.
  •You can intentionally and positively influence the emotional state of
  others.


• Effective and positive responses exist to all manner of negative emo-
  tional states.

In his book, Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman tells the amazing
story of an American troop in the midst of a firefight in a rice paddy in
Vietnam. During the battle, six monks started walking directly toward the
fire of one of the elevated berms that separates the paddies. One of the
soldiers in the battle gave this account.

“They didn’t look left and they didn’t look right, they walked

straight through. It was strange because nobody shot at them. And

WINNING THE

EMOTIONAL TUGS-OF-WAR

The Power of Positive Intent

“The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What

we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly. I love the man that

can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress,

and grow brave by reflection. ’Tis the business of little minds to

shrink, but he whose heart is firm and whose conscience approves

his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”

—THOMAS PAINE

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