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you are ever in an undermotivated mood, find some-
thing you fear and do it—and watch what happens.
27. Create the way you relate
We can’t create our truest selves without creating
relationships in the process. Relationships are every-
where. Relationships are everything.
“There is no end to relationship,” said the Indian
spiritual leader Krishnamurti. “There may be the end
of a particular relationship, but relationship can never
end. To be is to be related.”
I have trained many corporations with a four-part
seminar series. The first three parts are on self-moti-
vation, and the final part is on relationship building.
Sometimes CEOs ask me up front, ahead of the train-
ing, if I don’t have that ratio out of balance.
“Shouldn’t you have more of it be on relationship
building?” they ask. “After all, team-building and cus-
tomer relations are surely more important than self-
motivation.”
I stand by my ratio. We can’t relate to others if our
relationship with ourselves is poor. A commitment to
personal motivation comes first. Because who wants to
have a relationship with someone who is not motivated
in any way?
When we do get to the fourth part, relationship
building, the focus is on creativity. Creativity is the most
neglected and yet most useful aspect of relationship
building.
In relationships most of us think with our emotions
rather than our minds. But to think with our feelings
instead of our minds puts us in the unresourceful state
that Colin Wilson describes as being upside-down.