So, start to make these declarations and if you mean it they will
start you on your way to confidence and adventure free of the worry
habit. Say first:
- I’ve had it with worry.
- I’m tired of being beaten down and hassled with all those
negative mental pictures. - I refuse to be tricked by false facts.
- I’m really not that weak.
- Never again do I want those sick feelings inside, those mental
false alarms. - I’m tired of the drain on my resources.
- I’m tired of the embarrassment of the lack of confidence.
- I don’t want people, especially my family, to see me in this state
anymore. - I’ve got more to offer.
- I refuse to let my life be short-circuited any longer by letting my
mind run wild with a distorted view of the facts, whether I bring
it up or if it comes from someone else.
Prove it to yourself. Think back over all the things that you
worried about, all the fantastic, catastrophic events that your well-
meaning advisors had told you were going to happen. Be pleased
that none of them ever happened to you. Or else you would not be
alive today. Ninety percent of the things you worry about never
happen anyway. All of us have had these well-meaning advisors
who want to appear larger in the eyes of those they wish to advise
and who immediately rare back and describe every single bad
option they can think of that might possibly happen. By the time
they have finished the one who has come for some confidence and
some help wonders why he even bothers to live anymore. And the
fact is those things are never really going to happen anyway.
Bring to question now what your mind tells you or what others
tell you and pledge not to go for false alarms. “I’ve had it” is a good
beginning. This first step will start you arguing with your worry
thoughts. Soon you will start to examine your fears and worries to
see if they are valid. And you won’t let your mind play those mental
tricks any longer.