together is precisely so that one serves as a mirror to the other and
they learn from the experience of coexisting with someone who is like
themselves.
And what must they learn from this experience?
First, the knowledge that we are all brothers and sisters, and here it is
literal, because the most hated person in the previous life could be
your blood brother in the next one. Be clear about one thing: it is not
possible to evolve loving only a few and hating others. Until we
transform hatred into love we will not advance. For this reason, we
must repair the harm that we have done through hatred, and what
better way to do that than with the person with whom it is most difficult
and to whom we owe the most. This experience also serves for us to
know and to live first-hand the manifestations of the defect of another
person who has the same defect as us, understanding this defect to
be a manifestation of egoism. We have a tendency to see the mote in
the other person's eye but not the beam in our own, in other words, we
pay a lot of attention to the defects of others, especially those of
people who are not loved by us, but we do not want to see our own,
which are usually similar to those of others.
Through experiencing the effects of the defect in ourselves, the actual
experience of suffering what that manifestation of egoism in others
generates in ourselves, we will be conscious that it exists and that it is
something that must be eliminated.
Returning to the subject of personal relationships, for what reasons can
two people unite as a couple?
For love, for a need for spiritual evolution or for attachment.
The first two are reasons which obey spiritual criteria, and are decided
before incarnating. The last one is chosen by the person, when they
are already incarnate, and is usually for “earthly” reasons rather than
spiritual reasons, which very often alters the spiritual commitments
acquired before incarnating.
Can you explain what differences there are between some types of
union and others?
The first type is produced by the union of feelings and spiritual affinity.
The second by a mutual need for learning and this generally occurs
between spirits that have some type of account pending, or that can
improve spiritually through coexistence, or through having certain
defects or virtues which can be worked on through that coexistence.
The third type occurs through a physical or sexual attraction, an affinity