ALIGN YOURSELF: NEUROLOGICAL LEVELS OF CHANGE 231THOUGHT PROVOKERS1 Consider the following aspects of your life. How close are you in
each of these areas to the way you want to be? In the column
headed “Ideal” give each a mark out of 10, where 10 signifies this
is exactly as you want it to be and 0 indicates it is not at all as you
would want it. In the column headed “Reactive/ proactive” rate
yourself in terms of how actively you are influencing each area. 10
indicates you are, in your view, entirely proactive in the way you
are influencing this area to bring it up to the ideal. 0 indicates you
are waiting and hoping (or you've just given up).
Ideal Reactive/Proactive
Your job
Your social life
Your friends
Your skills
You will be building up a picture of where you lie on the
reactive–proactive scale. Even if you have what you consider to be
an ideal situation, or close to it, you may find that you actively
influence that situation to keep it that way.
It can be useful to get other people's feedback on how they
perceive you on this scale. It can be easy sometimes to delude yourself,
for example into thinking that being busy is the same as being
proactive, when in fact what you are doing is having little influence.
2Take a few moments and imagine you are applying for the work
you really want to do. Write a paragraph about yourself which, in
your view, describes what makes you uniquely you.
3 Ask a colleague or friend if they will answer the following
questions in the order given.
A What is characteristic behavior for you? (Behavior)
B What does your environment say about you? (Environment)
C What unique skills do you demonstrate and might
demonstrate? (Capabilities)
D What is important to you about what you do and what values
do you communicate to others by doing what you do? (Values)
E What do you believe is true about you and those around you
that enables you to do what you do? (Beliefs)
F Who are you? (ldentity)
G What value do you add to others by just being you?
(Spirituality)