“The problem is not in what we do but what we become.”
Oscar Wilde, De ProfundisO
ur beliefs influence and mold our behavior. They
form our lifescript, in the sense that whatever we
believe dictates how we respond to the situations
and people we meet in our life. If I believe that I will always
find a way to succeed no matter what I do, I am more likely to
do just that than is someone who believes they can never
have what they really want.
Most of our beliefs are formed by the age of seven and are
shaped by our parents or the equivalent of parent figures. In
most cases we don’t realize what our beliefs consist of and yet
they influence every moment of every day. And every belief
has a structure to it, which we can influence if we choose.
It is a little like carrying round a recording in our heads. If
the recording is working for us we can keep it, maybe updating
it to refine it from time to time. If, however, the recording is
limiting what we think about ourselves, we can take it out and
re-record it so we have one that does work for us. It is a basis
of NLP that if we understand the structure of what we hold in
our thinking, we can change it if we choose to.
If we want to model excellent performance we need to be
able to “step into” the beliefs of the person we are modeling
in order to influence the way we behave. Equally, to tap intoOur beliefs influence every
moment of every day