NLP At Work : The Difference That Makes the Difference in Business

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our most resourceful state for a specific context, we need to be
able to “step into” the belief that supports us in this (to model
ourselves). For example, if I want the confidence to talk with
ease at a conference, it helps me to model those times when I
fully believe that I do have something of value to share with
the conference delegates. In reminding myself of this belief I
tap into a resource that I already have but may temporarily
have shelved.
Beliefs can be expressed as statements. These are not
factual statements but emotionally held opinions that we have
reinforced over time. So what are the beliefs that are so vital
today? They are as follows:


❏ Each person is unique. There is a wealth of untapped talent
in everyone and we can help to release this talent by the
way we relate to people.
❏ Everyone makes the best choice available to them at the
time they make it. By believing this we can learn how to
understand, coach high performance, and forgive.
❏ There is no failure, only feedback. We must be able to take
in and learn from changing situations. Consequently we
need to be able to learn continuously and this belief is
central to our ability to do this.
❏ Behind every behavior is a positive intention. This belief is
fundamental in our being able to take whatever happens to
us, no matter how detrimental it might be initially, and turn
it into personal learning and growth.
❏ The meaning of the communication is its effect. We may
not be able to control our environment, but what we can do
is be aware of the effect we have on it. In holding this belief
we take full responsibility for the effect of our
communication with others.
❏ There is a solution to every problem. This belief is
characteristically held by people who find new ways of
working through or round obstacles and challenges. People
recognized as leaders typically hold this belief.
❏ We have within us all the resources we will ever need. By
believing this we can learn how to tap into every resource
(skill, attitude, belief) that we will ever need to achieve
what we want.


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