NLP At Work : The Difference That Makes the Difference in Business

She sees beauty in everyone

How do you strengthen belief in others? Belief comes from

our ability to imagine either ourselves or other people

achieving outcomes. If we can see, hear, and emotionally

experience them realizing their dreams, that translates itself

into a belief and we communicate this to them whatever we do

and say. You might do this imagining when you are out of their

company or while you are interacting with them. If you are

doing it during an interaction, step back and imagine this

person realizing a potential beyond what they are

demonstrating right now.

One of my colleagues is exceptional in her ability to advise

people on issues relating to their image. She sees beauty in

everyone she meets.

When someone comes to me for a coaching session for the first

time and tells me their issue, one of my first reactions is to ask

myself, “Do I want to deal with this issue in my life right now?”

Coaching is a mutual process. I can only offer the structure of

what I have managed for myself or what I am managing for

myself in my life at this time.

In essence, when we interact with another person we are

one system. We are not “doing coaching” to others, we are

part of a coaching system. What we offer is what we receive

and what we receive and accept for ourselves is what we can

give.

With the people we are coaching we bring out and engage

with those parts of ourselves that we need to resolve or that

we have we resolved and for which we can now be an example.

We teach what we need the most. I may not behave in exactly the

same way as the people I am coaching, but I will have a

parallel structure or capability in my experience. For example:

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Who is coaching whom?