After starting a conversation, get into Mr. Cocky and
Funny mode, and you’ll do some good work.
If you’re alone, and the woman is alone or with
friends, start with a compliment opener... depending on
the situation.
I’d always try to tie it into the situation, so it doesn’t
sound canned. Women can smell canned openers... I think
that they’re getting popular again or something... because
women can sense them like a dog sensing kitties.
I might say, “Excuse me... <Pause pause pause for
effect> I noticed you when I walked in, and I had to take
a second to find out what you were like...” or something
equally plausible sounding.
What I’ve realized is... if you’re going to approach a
woman, what you say doesn’t much matter as much as
HOW you say it (remember the character thing?). So
keep a serious look on your face (no big cheesy smiles)
as this approach creates the feeling that you’re not overly
excited. Then speak with a slow, mysterious confidence.
I’ve met many men who have big problems getting
past the idea of walking up to women who they don’t
know and starting a conversation. In fact, I had a huge
issue too when I started learning about how to deal with
women. My best advice is to just go for it and keep doing
it until you finally get over it.
One guy I know went to a mall one day and walked up
to every woman he saw to get over his fear. He said that
he felt sick in the beginning, but the fear eventually went
away. And then he did it again another day, and the fear
went away a little faster. And now he can walk up to any
woman anywhere and start talking.