And I’ve found that e-mails are answered far more
often than voicemail messages.
Here’s the how-to:
After I talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’d
often say something like, “Well, it was nice meeting you.
I’m going to get back to my friends.” They usually don’t
know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging. Then,
just as I was turning to walk away... and we’d kind of
disconnect... I’d turn back and say, “Hey, do you have
email?”
If they said ‘yes’, I’d take out a pen and paper and
have them write it down. (This is great, as I just treated
the ‘yes’ that they gave me as a ‘yes’ to get it from them
as well.
And they’ve ALL gone along with it so far.) Then I’d
say, “Write your number down there too.” I won’t go into
all of it, but this move is a powerhouse. When you ask for
email, it’s very low risk for them... so they think, “Fine, I’ll
do that”... and then when they’re already writing, I’d get
the phone number too... which is more natural.
If they said no, then I’d bust on them and say, “Well,
do you have electricity?” Then I’d say, “Well, OK then... I
like e-mail better, but I’ll take your regular phone
number... it’s so damn hard to reach people on the phone
these days.”
I hope you get what just happened... OK, then, as
they’re writing I’d say, “Is this a number that you actually
answer?” If not, then I’d say, “Look, write your real
number down... it’s going to be OK... I’ll only call you nine
times a day.” They’d laugh and give me their real
number.
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.