***HERE COMES THE KILLER!
Next, when we’re getting ready to hang up, I’d say
something like, “Great, it’s going to be nice to get to
know you better. And if nothing else, we can just be
FRIENDS.”
It took me and a good friend of mine a long time to
get this piece. From here on out, I’d constantly drop hints
about just ‘being friends’ and how I really ‘liked her as a
friend’ and how ‘it’s nice to meet someone that I like as a
friend’.
Trust me on this one... this messes them up soooooo
hard that they literally don’t know what to do.
This is most likely the first time IN THEIR ENTIRE LIFE
that this has happened to them. It continually triggers
their insecurity and makes them wonder why they’re not
attractive enough to you. It also disarms them
completely. (You have to really possess the mindset that
you are qualifying them and that they’re going to be your
friend for this to work)
I personally used the friendship jargon because it’s
better to enter any new relationship in a ‘NOT NEEDY’
frame of mind. Talking about being friends reminds ME to
pay more attention and to remember that I don’t need
anything and to stay focused on learning.
When You Meet
When they arrive at your place, say ‘hi’ and invite
them in for a minute while you get your coat or shoes.
Then walk out and seem like YOU’RE IN A HURRY TO
LEAVE. Most guys would try to get them to stay and get
cozy with them. You want them to think that you’re not
overly interested and that you want some coffee.
Total indifference.