At coffee, just sit and be the funny and cocky self,
make jokes, and in general lean back and make ‘friends’.
I used to analyze handwriting, do palmistry, and do
hand massages when I first met them.
Also, I used to be more ‘touchy feely’ with women at
the very beginning. As I mentioned, I’d massage their
hands and touch them a lot, etc. leading to kissing, etc.
early on.
I eventually learned that if I leaned back and almost
didn’t touch them at all on purpose, it created this tension
so that when I did actually touch them, they’d respond
powerfully. In communication they call this ‘Building
Response Potential’.
Sometimes I’d massage hands or touch, but I didn’t
overdo it.
I’m just sitting there ACTING LIKE WE’RE BEST
FRIENDS. When you act like they’re a best friend, they
will rapidly get comfortable with you. I made fun of
people, whatever. I just totally leaned back and relaxed.
I’m cool, relaxed, and constantly making comments about
how we’re going to be friends, etc.
I’ve learned never to compliment a hot woman on her
looks, period. I’d still mess up and forget, and I’d always
be reminded why not to do it. I’d try to find one thing
that she’s insecure about and talk to her about it like ‘a
friend’... not overly critical, but not saying, ‘No, you
shouldn’t be insecure’... I’d just keep bringing it up and
even make jokes about it.