The First Date Is NOT An Interview
I have had so many readers write and ask me, “How
should I act on the first date? What should we talk about?
How do you keep the conversation interesting?”, that I
felt I should address these points a bit further.
The first thing to remember when you’re meeting up
with a girl for ‘a date’ is that it’s NOT an INTERVIEW.
You’re not applying for a job (and neither is she), so don’t
act like it.
It’s so funny to me when I sit down in a restaurant
and I hear a couple that’s obviously out on their first
date... and the guy has no idea what to do. It sounds
something like this:
“So, did you grow up around here?”
“Where did you go to school?”
“Do you have brothers and sisters?”
“What kinds of things do you like to do for fun?”
Painful. Why is it that people tend to act like they’re
on job interviews when they go out on dates? It’s such a
not-right thing to do. I mean, no wonder women sit
around with each other and complain about how hard it is
to find an interesting guy in this world.
Here’s a good rule of thumb: ONLY ASK QUESTIONS
OR TALK ABOUT COMMON, BORING, PREDICTABLE
TOPICS LIKE SCHOOL, WORK AND FAMILY IF YOU HAVE
ABSOLUTELY RUN OUT OF ALL OTHER OPTIONS.
And why is this? Good question. And I’m glad you
asked.