Remember that YOU are qualifying HER to see if
she is someone you want to spend more time
with... and not the other way around.
Too many dinners and gifts early on will lead you
into ‘the friendship zone’. Impress her with
YOURSELF instead.
E-mail her first to build to build familiarity. Call her
on the phone to set up the date after she emails
you back.
On the phone, joke that SHE might turn out to be
weird. This subtlety lets her know that YOU are
normal and fun.
Have her meet you at your place so you don’t end
up waiting around... and so she will be coming back
to your place afterwards.
Use ‘The Flake Test’ – Ask her what the chances
are that she won’t show to set the tone up front.
Be the first to say “friends” – let her know that you
are looking forward to making a friend if nothing
else... this lets her know you have no expectations
and aren’t needy or desperate. Mention this during
the date!
Show her that you aren’t overly interested by
heading to the coffee shop quickly instead of
lingering around at your place.
