My Story ............................................................
I made the decision a few years ago that I needed to
get the area of my life ‘handled’ called ‘dealing with
women’. So I made a decision and a commitment to
myself and my best friend that I would do whatever it
took to learn and ‘figure this out’. (Read Chapter 1 from
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill for more on this
mindset.)
Some background: The girlfriends that I had in the
past were mostly from luck now that I reflect on it. They
were there, and I felt lucky to have them as my girlfriend
at the time.
But I never knew how to approach women I didn’t
know, and I could sit in a bar for three hours making eye
contact with a woman and never have the nerve to go
talk to her. Now, I’m about 5’10” and 160 pounds. I think
I’m reasonably good looking, but I’ve never been the kind
of guy that women just walk up and approach. (I say this
to give you a frame of reference in relationship to the
comments I make relating to looks, etc.) I’ve made
myself more attractive by paying attention, learning, and
using what works.
When I made the decision to get this part of my life
handled, I decided that instead of trying to start with an
angle (working at a strip club, becoming famous for
something, etc.) that I would like to learn in a way that
gave me power to act with just my personality and
presentation. In other words, I wanted to make this part
of who I was rather than a ‘trick’.
I have a rule of thumb in life that I use... it takes
about 2-4 years just to get ‘good’ at something. And I
mean JUST TO GET GOOD. Think martial arts, playing an
instrument... anything. (Read Chapter 1 of Mastery by
Leonard for more wisdom on this topic.)