I realized a few years ago that most people look at
themselves and say things like, “There must be
something WRONG WITH ME. I don’t know why. I just
can’t do it.”
But, in fact, the problem wasn’t something ‘wrong’
with them; the problem was that they needed to learn a
new skill or a set of skills.
Meeting women comes down to SKILLS. If you’re
having a problem in a particular area, get new skills to
deal with it. For instance, if you have learned to meet
women and get phone numbers, you might start having
them flake out on you and not show up for planned
meetings. Solution: A new skill. You need to learn the
skill of getting women to meet you after making plans.
There are many parts to being successful with women,
and they all work together. You may already know some
of them, you might learn a few more from this book, but
if you’re missing a key (like how and when to kiss a
woman, for instance) you’ll still keep running into
challenges.
Remember, if you’re having a challenge, you need a
skill. So remind yourself of this idea, come back to this
book to get the information, and then practice until you
have the SKILL!
I began by creating self-image exercises based on NLP
(Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Timeline Therapy,
and doing them all the time. (Read Frogs Into Princes by
Richard Bandler and John Grinder and The Secret of
Creating Your Future by Tad James for more info.)
Here’s one exercise that’s helped me tremendously:
First, I close my eyes and imagine a picture of the
person that I want to become. I imagine how I’ll be
dressed, the expression on my face, how I’m standing...