woman exactly what she wants...” etc. is, ironically, to
give her what she REALLY wants... a man who’s in control.
Women want a challenge. Think romance novel
themes... if you don’t know what I’m talking about, sit
yourself down for a week and read Dangerous Men and
Adventurous Women by Jayne Krentz... How to Succeed
With Women By Being A Jerk by F.J. Shark... Endless
Rapture by Helen Hazen... and Bad Boys by Margie
Palatini... and think about it.
Most of the time, I’m enjoying myself, talking about
whatever comes up, making jokes, and generally
behaving like a normal person.
But, like anything else, if these techniques are used
too much, they become worthless... so they must be used
with precision and at the right moments.
What’s interesting is that because I usually (but not
always) do these teasing and seemingly controlling things
with a bit of a dry humor spin, I believe that the woman
who I’m with has an internal response like, “Wow, this
guy is cocky, but I can’t tell if he’s serious or not... and I
want to find out... but either way, he’s funny and he’s
staying interested in me and not being flagrantly
abusive... so he must be interested at SOME level...”
The key is to WATCH FOR THE TESTS and be ready
when they come.
Most guys screw up when a woman acts bratty... or
when a woman gets upset, they say, “Oh, I’m sorry” and
mess it up. Or they act nervous, etc. You have to stay in
control... If a woman starts getting angry, instead of
getting nervous say, “Oh, poor baby is throwing a
tantrum... So what. You’ve been doing the same thing
since you were 2, and you didn’t get your way.”
SPANK!