Of course, this is simply "detached, objective
self-analysis". But you'll enjoy it more-and get better
results-if you use your imagination to become your own
ghost to stand outside yourself and see yourself as others
see you.
The whole idea is to critically watch yourself
perform each daily task to see if you are doing it as perfectly
as possible.
For example, your telephone rings. You watch
yourself-through your ghost-to see if you answer your
phone with a cheerful "hello" or if you sound irritated at
the interruption. Your ghost is watching to see if you
mentally "broadcast goodwill" to the other person through-
out the entire telephone conversation. Are you speaking
with a smile in your voice? Do you give your caller the
pleasant impression that his or her phone call is appreci-
ated, and do you express your appreciation in the form
of sincere compliments? Your ghost is watching, listening
-critically, objectively-and will let you know how well
you performed this simple, but important, task of making
each telephone call an event, not an incident.
Make a pal of your ghost. After all, your ghost
is YOU-and if you can't have friendly relations with
yourself, you'll never have friendly relations with anybody
else. So ask your ghost (mentally, of course): "How did
I do?" "How could I have done better?" "What do I need
to learn, to practice, in order to improve my performance?"
Talk it over (again, mentally, of course) with your ghost.
Remember that your ghost has been watching you with
critical detachment-from the outside, as others do.