Using the Internet Safely For Seniors

Check in with your grandchildren periodically to ask whether they’re

being bullied, whether in person, on the computer, or on their cell

phones.Make sure children know why they should never bully others,

and make it clear what the consequences will be if they do. Some par-

ents of bullies tend to minimize or dismiss their children’s behavior.

They consider such behavior as being “just a phase,” or they say that

“kids will be kids.” Not only does this point of view utterly disregard

the tremendous damage done to victims, it also fails to recognize the

very dangerous paths bullies walk.

Those who participate in cyberbullying head down a

very negative path. They are far more likely to also

become involved in other delinquent behavior online

and offline. These problem behaviors include abusing

alcohol, cheating on school tests, skipping school,

physically assaulting peers or adults, damaging prop-

erty, shoplifting, drug abuse, running away from

home, carrying weapons, and detention or suspension

from school. Bullies also have significantly increased

risk of imprisonment, failed relationships, and failure

to succeed in a work environment in later life. If your

grandchild is a bully, find help now.

What to Do If Your Grandchild Is Cyberbullied

Often, young people who are victims of bullying are told they should

just ignore it or toughen up. Instead of dismissing them, support them

when they speak up about online abuse.

To help kids and teens who are being cyberbullied, follow these

guidelines:

➟ Help the victims of cyberbullying understand that the

bullying isn’t their fault. If you ask most bully victims

why they’re being bullied, they say it’s because they

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Chapter 11: Grandparents Rule!