have whatever ‘deficiency’ the bullies claim — they’re
too short, have a lisp, are too fat or skinny, or what-
ever. In reality, bullies choose an easy target and then
figure out a justification for the bullying. Too often,
victims feel their characteristics caused them to be
singled out, and they feel that they’re somehow at
fault. They aren’t.➟ Teach your grandchild that it’s a myth that weaklings
tattle. In reality, those who tell are the ones who
aren’t willing to be bullied. Speaking out and getting
help are positive declarations that they deserve to be
treated better and are willing to take steps to ensure
that they are.➟ Protect your grandchild from further abuse. This
means reacting and acting very carefully to not make
matters worse. The biggest fear kids have in telling
adults about bullying is that their fears will be dis-
missed, that they’ll be blamed, or that their Internet
access will be cut off.➟ If you feel that you or your grandchild is in any way
at risk, call the police. Don’t hesitate or wait to see if
the abuse will stop.➟ If you or your grandchildren are harassed or threat-
ened online, report the abuser to the Web service.
(See Figure 11-13.) If the online services don’t pro-
vide the support you need, change services and let the
provider know why you changed.➟ Report online abuse to your Internet service provider
(ISP) or phone abuse to your cell phone company,
and follow any instructions for documenting the
problem and taking action against the abuser.238
Part II: Using the Internet While Dodging the Risk