22 • MODULE FIVE: DECISION-MAKING
But why?
I did not study last night
But why?
My friends called to go out
But why?
There was a party at a friend’s place and alcohol was being served
But why?
They were anti-social men who had money to spend on alcohol and drugs- What is interesting about this series of asking “But why” as one goes deeper into the
circumstances, is that what appears as a simple problem at first gradually gets complicated
and reveals how social relations and values figure in our decisions. After the first “why,” one
would think that the child could try and be prepared better. But by the time we are at the third
“why,” we understand that friends are creating problems for him. So, the appropriate response
for the child at this stage would be either to say “no” or persuade the friends not to do so.
Towards the end of the series, the children understand that they are all being manipulated by
the anti-social drug pushers. So, the final understanding is that the friends have as much to
gain by saying “no.”
Once children have understood how to solve problems, ask them to think about the solutions.
They may go to whichever level of ‘why’ they want. - Divide the group into fours so that each group has a problem card that needs to be solved. The
children can do a role play, tell a story, do frozen pictures or charts to explain what they are
doing and why. They then share with rest of the group. The group comments on whether the
solution was appropriate or suggests another way.
Variation
The same card can be given to two groups, and the difference in problem solving noted and
discussed. This activity can be used at any time in the other modules as well.- Some sample cards are given below. Other problem cards may be added according to needs.
There are problem statements below that are suitable for younger children as well.- Your best friend decides to miss school and asks you to do so also.
- Your friend asks you to distract the shopkeeper so that he can steal something from his shop.
- A stranger meets you and speaks in a friendly manner. He asks you to come with him.
- You are walking on a very hot day and a stranger offers to give you a lift in his vehicle.
- Your friends are all going to have a drink/smoke/have some glue and they invite you to come.