How To Stop Worrying And Start Living

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myself," said Napoleon at St. Helena, "no one but myself can be blamed for my fall. I
have been my own greatest enemy-the cause of my own disastrous fate."


Let me tell you about a man I know who was an artist when it came to self-appraisal and
self-management. His name was H. P. Howell. When the news of his sudden death in
the drugstore of the Hotel Ambassador in New York was flashed across the nation on
July 31, 1944, Wall Street was shocked, for he was a leader in American finance-
chairman of the board of the Commercial National Bank and Trust Company, 56 Wall
Street, and a director of several large corporations. He grew up with little formal
education, started out in life clerking in a country store, and later became credit
manager for U.S. Steel- and was on his way to position and power.


"For years I have kept an engagement book showing all the appointments I have during
the day," Mr. Howell told me when I asked him to explain the reasons for his success.
"My family never makes any plans for me on Saturday night, for the family knows that I
devote a part of each Saturday evening to self-examination and a review and appraisal
of my work during the week. After dinner I go off by myself, open my engagement book,
and think over all the interviews, discussions and meetings that have taken place since
Monday morning. I ask myself: 'What mistakes did I make that time?' 'What did I do that
was right-and in what way could I have improved my performance?' 'What lessons can I
learn from that experience?' I sometimes find that this weekly review makes me very
unhappy. Sometimes I am astonished by my own blunders. Of course, as the years
have gone by, these blunders have become less frequent. This system of self-analysis,
continued year after year, has done more for me than any other one thing I have ever
attempted."


Maybe H.P. Howell borrowed his idea from Ben Franklin. Only Franklin didn't wait until
Saturday night. He gave himself a severe going-over every night. He discovered that he
had thirteen serious faults. Here are three of them: wasting time, stewing around over
trifles, arguing and contradicting people. Wise old Ben Franklin realised that, unless he
eliminated these handicaps, he wasn't going to get very far. So he battled with one of his
shortcomings every day for a week, and kept a record of who had won each day's
slugging match. The next day, he would pick out another bad habit, put on the gloves,
and when the bell rang he would come out of his corner fighting. Franklin kept up this
battle with his faults every week for more than two years.


No wonder he became one of the best-loved and most influential men America ever
produced!


Elbert Hubbard said: "Every man is a damn fool for at least five minutes every day.
Wisdom consists in not exceeding that limit."


The small man flies into a rage over the slightest criticism, but the wise man is eager to
learn from those who have censured him and reproved him and "disputed the passage
with him". Walt Whitman put it this way: "Have you learned lessons only of those who
admired you, and were tender with you, and stood aside for you? Have you not learned
great lessons from those who rejected you, and braced themselves against you, or
disputed the passage with you?"


Instead of waiting for our enemies to criticise us or our work, let's beat them to it. Let's
be our own most severe critic. Let's find and remedy all our weaknesses before our
enemies get a chance to say a word. That is what Charles Darwin did. In fact, he spent
fifteen years criticising-well, the story goes like this: When Darwin completed the
manuscript of his immortal book, The Origin of Species, he realised that the publication
of his revolutionary concept of creation would rock the intellectual and religious worlds.

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