And again, years later, when they’re both in relationships, and
again when he’s in mid-divorce and she has just been dumped.
They keep bumping into each other until finally, they realize
they like each other and become close friends. And after a long
friendship, they finally realize that, despite the differences
between them, they love each other.
Viewing Suggestion:Watch the constant transformation
that Sally and Harry go through in their relationship over a
long period of time. They go through many ups and downs dur-
ing which their relationship improves. Notice how they experi-
ence many different kinds of emotions during this time and are
able to forgive each other for their mistakes.
Kolya (1996)
Making the best of “bad” circumstances, confirmed bachelor
musician, Frantisek Louka, finds he is suddenly left in charge
of a five-year-old boy, Kolya, when his Soviet mother aban-
dons him to join her boyfriend. His initial eagerness for the boy
to be shipped off to a state-sponsored foster family slowly
changes during the months he is forced into the role of care-
giver. By the time the boy’s mother returns to reclaim him, and
despite that Kolya speaks only Russian and Louka speaks lit-
tle, the two have grown to love one another. But their sadness
at having to separate is offset by Louka’s understanding that he
has learned he is capable of feeling real love.
Viewing Suggestion: Watch how Louka’s and Kolya’s
hearts grow together over time even though they do not under-
stand each other’s native language.
Exercise: Remember whether some of your
relationships change over time. The changes in the
relationships between Sally and Harry’s as well as
Louka and Kolya may be similar or different from
the changes in yours. Are you willing to tolerate the
different kinds of emotions that often change
relationships? Do you sense what could help you to“Stories heal. Their teach-
ings can awaken inner
strengths, nobility, and
self-value. Our favorite
movies are emblematic of
ideas we need and value
for this enrichment to
happen.”
Marsha SinetarNegative Belief Index 93