Do you remember a situation recently when
you felt harshly critical about yourself regarding
one of the issues that you have noted there?
How did it make you feel?
Notice how you responded to this attack of
your inner critic. Did you try to make yourself
feel better by justifying or distracting yourself?
What image do you have of yourself as a result
How does this image of yourself limit who you
are and who you could be?
What standards did your inner critic measure
you against?
Do you agree with these standards now?Notice your feelings and write down some of your
thoughts in response to these questions.
Close your eyes now, and in your mind’s eye allow
an image to arise that fits the feeling you have when
your inner critic gets activated and attacks you.
Choose any image that comes to mind, like a wicked
witch, a grim monster, a demon, or a dangerous bird
on your shoulder.
Now choose from the following different ways of
releasing the inner critic by responding to its image
when you notice an attack. Try out several responses
until you find the most appropriate one for the
nature of the attack and for your personality. Once
you find one or two that work for you, it is best to
stick with those unless they stop being effective. If
that happens, try some of the others again. It is best
to speak these responses out loud. If this is not
possible, just think the words.
Assertion: Shut up!or Stop!or Let go!or Leave me
alone!or just No!Reclaiming assertive strength is
vital, especially if you experience the attacks of your
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