loved. Use the exercises in Chapter 4 in combination
with the Negative Belief Index in Chapter 5 to
release your negative beliefs. Once these beliefs are
released, your perceived shortcomings will
disappear. They only existed as a belief in your
mind in the first place.Through her identification with the film character Claire in
Grand Canyonand with the help of the group process, Eveyln
learned that she perceives herself as too dreamy but that in fact
this was not really true about her. Evelyn felt very self-critical
when she thought of herself this way. After she practiced some
of these exercises, she was finally able to let go of this distorted
perspective of herself.Exercise 6: Overcoming Real Shortcomings
Through watching the film characters and learning
about yourself you might have discovered real
shortcomings that you want to overcome. If you do
not like certain behaviors or negative qualities that
impact your relationships or your goals in life, it
might be worthwhile to make some changes. For
example, you might burst out in anger easily. This
could ruin your relationships and lead to negative
evaluations at work. The following suggestions have
helped many of my clients.
a) Practicing exercises 1, 2, or 3 on pages 156–
158: If you judge yourself harshly for your
shortcomings and you have not yet done these
exercises, practice one of them now. This suggestion
may sound counterintuitive if you believe that you
need a critical inner voice to motivate you to take
action. But harsh inner criticism of you as a person
most likely does the opposite. It demoralizes you.
When you release self-hatred, you free up emotional“Learn to get in touch
with the silence within
yourself and know that
everything in this life has
a purpose.”
Elisabeth
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